https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog daily 0.75 2024-08-05 https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/discover-your-breathing-rate-and-style monthly 0.5 2024-08-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/e950625f-e842-4197-8468-2b493f23db43/IMG_8868.jpeg Blog - How well do you know your breath? - This is a view that I love up in the high country of Victoria. You might have places where you feel more grounded too? It’s not surprising that being in nature or in places where we feel calmer, can have a positive impact on our stress levels, and therefore our breathing rate. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/areyougettingenoughsleep monthly 0.5 2024-08-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/98e61566-606b-4d4a-b2c4-73b9794c7788/Attachment-1.jpg Blog - Are you getting enough sleep? - Ahhhhh… If only we could all sleep as easily as little Rose Petals after a run on the beach! https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/festiveseason monthly 0.5 2022-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/105db10b-d0cb-4f49-8958-d35fe03418ba/57%2520-%2520Cape%2520Cod%2520-%2520Princetown%2520-%2520Xmas%2520Shop.JPG Blog - Surviving family fatigue these holidays! - This photo of me was taken in one of my all time favourite Christmas shops (or caves!) in Princetown, Cape Cod. It reminds me of the spirit of Christmas, the importance of rituals and that magic really is all around us. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/selfsabotage monthly 0.5 2022-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/6e6addd3-70db-4db3-a6c0-810753d93a32/IMG_DA8DAC928D7E-1.jpeg Blog - Are you self-sabotaging? - Quite often self sabotaging behaviours come back to the core beliefs that we have about ourselves. If deep down we view ourselves as being unworthy or undeserving, we can self-sabotage. But there’s a bit more to it than just this. Self-sabotage behaviours can show up in the most unlikely of places. Think about the last time somebody gave you a compliment for example. Did you graciously thank them and accept it? Or perhaps you tried to shut it down and it was hard for you to accept it? If so, is it possible that you didn’t feel like you deserved the compliment? Maybe you felt embarrassed or self-conscious with the attention that the compliment brought? Whatever the case, rejecting compliments can be a warning sign to indicate that self sabotaging behaviour is alive and well. When we set ourselves a goal, or set out to solve a problem, self-sabotaging obstacles can commonly arise. So to start with it’s helpful to break these different obstacles down into two different groups: practical and psychological. Practical obstacles can be things like time or financial constraints. Whereas psychological obstacles are any thoughts, feelings, beliefs or attitudes that might stop us from making progress towards our goal. Leading experts in the field, Professor Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey, reveal that when it comes to change, desire and motivation aren’t enough alone. They suggest that while part of us might be devoted to the change, another part of us, might want everything to stay exactly as it is. As a result, we actively self-sabotage and prevent ourselves from the very change we wish to make. If we take the goal of wanting to lose weight for example, we can use one of their activities to explore whether there are any self-sabotaging behaviours that might be holding us back. Start by drawing up three columns. In the first column, write your goal. What is it that you really want? https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/helpers-high monthly 0.5 2022-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/b4f2dbef-4fc9-4bcc-840e-af2d9f1d81b9/unsplash-image-GGjQaf4kjWQ.jpg Blog - How to get the helper’s high? - “Helping someone in a thoughtful and kind way is beyond any doubt an instant mood booster. For me, the helpers high is a by product of living a life that is attuned to the needs of those around you - helping them wherever possible - and living in the space of kindness.” https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/Posttraumaticgrowth monthly 0.5 2022-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/a1cba9aa-bcd4-4ad0-839b-ece8867b8b11/IMG_3931+3.JPG Blog - Grief - the gift of post traumatic growth - This photo of me in New York hailing a cab was taken not even a month after my brother had died. I look at this photo and can’t believe how “normal” I look. In reality, I was a mess. I felt completely untethered and everything was blurry for me at that time. What I’ve learnt is that grief and growth, joy and sadness, can all coexist. That navigating life after loss often involves holding space for conflicting truths. I’ve learnt that life is weird. And that’s ok. I’ve learnt that we can grow through suffering, and that life-earned wisdom is truly transcendent, but it’s not easy. Grief is a poignant reminder of life’s fragility. That time is finite. That life is ephemeral. And that anything is possible. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/how-to-boost-your-happiness monthly 0.5 2022-01-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/1c3eb2ce-5452-45cd-8244-947410fbe24c/unsplash-image-bF0qoFaYbys.jpg Blog - How to boost your happiness - “I take care of myself and try to boost up my positive energy. I rely on my strengths. I remind myself that my strengths are my power. I remind myself of my ability to positively or negatively impact others. I choose kindness and try to leave people feeling happier” https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/blog/optimismpessimist monthly 0.5 2022-01-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/ffa1148a-1fca-43a3-ba6d-01a5c8684a69/IMG_3056.jpg Blog - Is your glass half empty or half full? - “I don’t see optimism and pessimism as two distinct groups, but rather as a sliding scale. I certainly know some people in my life who are truly optimistic or pessimistic - but I don’t think I’m one of them. I seem to oscillate between the two. If I notice I’m slipping more towards the glass being half empty, I make a conscious effort to unpack what’s going on. Sometimes great gifts come from leaning into my pessimism” https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters daily 0.75 2022-02-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/efda9c46-037e-463a-a840-36250ff58322/face-14.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene A selection of letters from Dr Pene Schmidt’s newspaper advice column “Dear Dr Pene” are published here. Her column answered the questions of reader’s as they navigated different challenges in their day to day life. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/unrequited-love monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/5db1812a-0db4-4e05-b783-5c381b3ed5b5/face-25.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I’ve been in love with someone for years, but they don’t feel the same way - Question | Dear Pene, I’ve been in love with someone for years, but they don’t feel the same way. So my question is how do I get over them and move on? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/a65d1ac1-dd17-419f-8497-b83e8baebe7f/face-14.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I’ve been in love with someone for years, but they don’t feel the same way - Some things you might like to think about… When it comes to unrequited love people can feel particularly vulnerable and lonely. At the very core of unrequited love is the desire to have something that we cannot have. People experiencing unrequited love have been found to have higher levels of depression and tension, when compared to those experiencing mutual love. One study found that 98% of people had been rejected by someone that they loved. By the early 20s, most people will have experienced both sides of unrequited love. Unrequited love in many cases is not only painful for the person being rejected. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/my-sister-prefers-to-talk-about-celebrities monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/0c9f477a-e0f4-47ec-86c0-f6f214216efb/face-28.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My sister prefers to talk about celebrities rather than our lives - Question | Dear Dr Pene, My sister is totally obsessed with all the latest celebrity news, gossip and photos. She buys all the celeb magazines and constantly gossips about them as if she actually knows them. She is obsessed with the Kardashians and the Royal family - which would be fine but it’s actually like she prefers to talk about them rather than the real stuff happening in our lives. It’s driving me crazy. Does she have a problem or am I overreacting? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/ea970b25-93a7-417e-9734-5258ccf572e3/face-28.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My sister prefers to talk about celebrities rather than our lives - Some things you might like to think about… Celebrity worship becomes a problem when people begin to feel like their thoughts are all consumed by their favorite idol. Even when they don’t want to be thinking about them they pop into their minds They can become more and more captivated by the celebrity until their emotional responses and feelings are similar to people with addictions In extreme cases of celebrity worship syndrome people may feel like they have a special connection or bond with the celebrity and they find it difficult to separate fact from fantasy. If you observe these symptoms it is important that the person suffering get the right support through specialised mental health services. Develop and support meaningful connection with family, friends and people in the community. The more a person feels a sense of belonging and connection to people within the real world, the more protected they are against the addictive nature of celebrity worship. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/contempt-in-a-relationship-is-not-a-good-sign monthly 0.5 2022-02-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/7f02e988-5ac7-46e4-9b50-6a9effe02fdf/face-25+%281%29.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My husband rolls his eyes at whatever I say - Question | Dear Dr Pene, I’m not sure that my husband really loves me. For the past couple of years he seems to constantly make sarcastic remarks (kind of putting me down) and will roll his eyes at whatever I say. I used to be really confident, but now I feel like a shadow of my former self. I find myself crying a lot lately and I’m not sure how to tell if he still loves me or not… https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/1f572d9d-9ec6-4cd9-9101-358039cee625/face-06.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My husband rolls his eyes at whatever I say - Some things you might like to think about… The 5 to 1 Rule: When there are more good things to say to one another than bad, your relationship will flourish. Gottman has discovered that when it comes to happy couples they have five times more positive interactions than negative ones. Think about that in the context of your relationship. You need to have five times as many positive things going on in your relationship for every one negative. This suggests that if your husband says something negative and hurts your feelings then it will take five positive things to make it up. Simply put, the equation is not balanced in terms of positive and negative. Negativity has a lot more ability to inflict pain and damage in a relationship than positive things have to heal and bring you closer. Dr. John Gottman has designed the following questions to assess the current level of fondness and admiration that exists in your relationship. You might like to think about how you respond to your husband’s contempt. Do you retaliate with counter criticism? If so, you may be in what Gottman calls a cycle of Criticise/ Defend/ Counter-criticise. This negative cycle needs to be addressed as it can quickly escalate conflicts beyond reasonable control. You might like to read: The Relationship Cure: A revolutionary five-step program for repairing troubled relationships — with spouses and lovers, family members, friends, and even your colleagues. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/relationships-based-on-one-component-are-the-most-likely-to-fail monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/fb1f78ca-1730-4263-b113-ba1c8437c324/face-26.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I have a great sex life but nothing more - Question | Dear Dr Pene, My husband and I have always had amazing chemistry and a great sex life but nothing more. As the years pass I find myself feeling more and more alone. I have tried to talk to him about it, but he is not one to discuss emotional issues (or anything really!). He just responds by saying “What are you even going on about - we have a great relationship!”. We have nothing else in common and I don’t know whether chemistry alone is enough? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/4fbc22c3-e55f-4f6b-8fc1-b1b5ea3b7026/face-26.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I have a great sex life but nothing more - Some things you might like to think about… Relationships are always evolving and changing, so remember that these components can vary and change over time. In general terms the longevity of a relationship is dependent on a couple’s ability to maintain a balance in their feelings of intimacy, passion and commitment. Relationships that are based solely on one component are most likely to fail. A book you might find helpful “10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage” by John Gottman & Julie Gottman https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/why-is-my-best-friend-never-happy-for-me monthly 0.5 2022-08-31 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/2400a654-0a77-4f33-8a06-7829d48735e3/poster-05.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: Why is my best friend never happy for me? - Here’s what you can say… “Lately I’ve noticed that when I share my “good news” with you, you respond by pointing out the negatives and things you don’t like”(Here you describe your friends behaviour, being careful to do this without interpreting or judging). “When this happens, it makes me feel like you’re minimising and dismissing the good things that are happening in my life. The things I’m proud of and really excited about - the things that are really important to me. (Here you’re describing the impact of the person’s behaviour on you. Be specific and clear. Avoid over-generalisations). “It makes me feel upset and hurt that you don’t seem happy or excited for me” (Describe your feelings). “I wanted to let you know how I was feeling, as it’s been upsetting me lately. We have been through so much together and you’re my closest friend - and I would love it if when I share my good news with you in the future, you could share in my excitement and happiness, rather than just pointing out the negatives you see”. (Here you are clearly stating how you would prefer the behaviour to be in the future). https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/39f120d7-5ada-4351-adda-a7f4d21c8846/face-12.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: Why is my best friend never happy for me? - Question | Dear Dr Pene, I can’t help but feel that my closest friend is never happy for me. We have been best friends since childhood, but in the last few years things have changed. I’d even go as far as to say that it feels like she’s always putting me down. She does it in a jokey way, but I’m always left feeling hurt by the things she says. For example, after working lots of extra hours and really budgeting, I managed to finally pay for a trip for me and the kids. I was really excited, but when I told her she didn’t say one nice thing. Instead she carried on about how she couldn’t think about anything worse than going on a trip with her kids. I got a similar negative response a couple of years ago when I purchased a brand new car (it was black). This was huge for me on so many levels. But of course, she made the remark “Oh why on earth did you choose black! Never in a million years would I buy a black car - they show up the dirt and they get so hot in summer”. I was crushed. I’m always excited for her when good things happen - but it certainly doesn’t go both ways. I don’t understand why she has to try and put a dampener on things? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/3933fca8-dfc5-49c2-8f10-41e509fc7b2a/face-16.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: Why is my best friend never happy for me? - Some things you might like to think about… Address dynamics if you feel they are motivated by a need to control, dominate or feel superior. Be open and honest with your friend about how you are feeling. Work together to build a culture within your friendship that is more supportive. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/fight-fair monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/ffe588cf-a970-47b6-acfe-6b6253c69f6a/face-25.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My wife and I constantly argue - Question | Dear Dr Pene, My wife and I constantly argue. It always starts off over housework or money but ends up getting really personal. We both get really angry and just let it rip, and it’s like we try to say things that we know will really hurt each other. I try to just ignore it, but to be honest she has said some fairly hurtful things to me in the past and I find it hard to get past. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/0d958055-fde7-4cd5-9c6d-aefed4425e89/face-25.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My wife and I constantly argue - Some things you might like to think about… Prevent anger escalations. Anger can create vicious cycles that stop all reasonable discussions, negotiations and prohibit the ability to reach an agreement. Try to avoid fighting when you’re tired, exhausted or emotional. At these times we are less rational or able to problem solve to our best ability. Instead, try to go for a walk, take a bath, or just have some time out for yourself. Remember you are not ignoring the issue, you are instead choosing to come back to it at a time when you have more resources available to “fight fair” and constructively resolve the issue. Stick to the issue of the moment. Don’t resort to personal attacks or name-calling. Take a break from the fight if things start to escalate, and come back to the issue when you feel calmer. Seek a clear resolution where you reach an agreement, make a compromise or agree to postpone the discussion. https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/anxiety-is-holding-me-hostage monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/2fb4599c-83d7-4502-96ca-ff645d8d564b/face-06.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I can’t face people because I’m worried I’ll say something stupid and embarrass myself - Question | Dear Dr Pene, Lately I just can’t face people. I get really nervous that I’ll say something stupid and embarrass myself. I’ve been avoiding my friends as I’m sure they think I say strange things all the time. I get so anxious about going to the supermarket because I’m worried I’ll bump into someone I know. When I seen people I know I go as red as a beetroot and can’t think clearly - it’s almost like I’m going to faint or pass out. The other day I had to sign my name at the bank and I felt all panicked and worried about having to do it in front of bank teller. My hand was trembling so much and she would have thought I was some kind of freak for sure. Do you know what could be going on? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/fd3f5304-79d6-4e6f-99e0-74fa4d72e495/face-06.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I can’t face people because I’m worried I’ll say something stupid and embarrass myself - Some things you might like to think about… Identify how anxiety shows up for you. What do you think, feel and do in social situations? By examining the physical, cognitive and behavioural aspects of your anxiety you will get a greater understanding of your anxiety. Depending on your own features of anxiety there are a range of treatment options including cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), medications, using exposure techniques to confront your fears, polishing up on your social skills (e.g. learning how to start or keep a conversation going). https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/i-feel-invisible-to-my-partner monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/713fefd5-5392-42b7-ad24-87af94fb3c86/face-21.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I feel invisible to my partner - Question | Dear Dr Pene, Every time I try to connect with my partner I get nothing. I reach out to hold a hand, but I’m ignored. I suggest programs we can watch together, but I get no response. And I talk about the challenges I’m having at work, only to be met with silence and a blank look. I feel like we’re drifting further and further apart. I’m not sure what’s going on! Truth be told, I feel like I’m completely invisible to my partner. Any ideas on what to do? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/a126b335-cf7b-469d-b063-4ed737c0f84b/face-25.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I feel invisible to my partner - Some things you might like to think about… Read “The Relationship Cure - A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening your Marriage, Family and Friendships” Communication can become particularly difficult during times of transition or stress. Habitually turning away from your partner can eventually destroy your relationship. Seek therapy to work through these issues if required. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/068f089f-601d-4bab-ade3-8e17a8b8f3d1/pattern-03.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I feel invisible to my partner - Here’s what you could say… “Lately when I try to connect with you, I get no response and you turn away from me”(Here you’re using “I”statements and describing your partner’s behaviour objectively. Be careful to do this without interpreting or judging. This is all about identifying and sharing the problem). “Last night when I went to hold your hand, you pulled away and walked off” (Use a concrete example if you can). “I’m left not knowing why this is. I start wondering why you’re ignoring me and what the silence might mean. To be honest my mind goes into overdrive trying to work out what might be going on. I begin to think that perhaps you are no longer interested in me, or attracted to me anymore? Do you want “out” of our relationship? Are you angry at me? Or perhaps you’re not aware I’m trying to connect with you?” (Describe the impact of your partner’s behaviour on you. Be specific and clear. Don’t overgeneralise). “It makes me feel confused and alone - and like we’re drifting apart. I feel really upset and rejected. I feel like I’m invisible to you”. (Describe your feelings). “I would really like to talk about our relationship and what’s going on. I’d love for you to share how you’re feeling. I also think it would be great if we could focus on how we’re responding to each other, and really make an effort to respond positively and connect with each other again. Do you think we could try this? Or do you think it might be worthwhile us working with a therapist to help us to work through these issues”. (State how you would prefer the behaviour to be in the future). https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/ebd623d2-fbe3-4170-85c2-8504f48c6223/poster-02.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: I feel invisible to my partner - What are the three ways you can respond to a bid? According to Gottman there are three main ways you can respond to a bid: Turning towards (acknowledging the bid) Turning away (ignoring or missing the bid) Turning against (rejecting the bid in an argumentative or belligerent way) https://www.drpeneschmidt.com/letters/my-best-friend-is-putting-pressure-on-our-marriage monthly 0.5 2022-08-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/8083359d-549f-4cfc-989b-667144312e49/face-30.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My best friend is putting pressure on our marriage - Question | Dear Dr Pene, I’m a busy 39-year old mum of two and I’m really struggling with my best friend. Around 18 months ago she had a really serious health issue and we were happy to drop everything and support her as best we could. She’s single and her family lives interstate so I guess we were it. We cooked her meals, cleaned her house, walked her dog and drove her to appointments. Thankfully, she made a full recovery and has now been fit and well for the past 11 months. However, we’re finding that she still expects us to do what we were doing for her while she was in hospital! She constantly relies on us and she comes over for dinner almost every night of the week. To be honest it feels like having an extra child. Both my husband and I never get a chance to relax and with her demands added into the mix we are struggling. We haven’t exercised in over a year - which doesn’t help us I know. To be honest, I feel like she’s putting pressure on our relationship that we just don’t need. We’re exhausted and I desperately need some “me” time, as does my husband but I can’t see how this can happen without offending and losing my lifelong friend. Any ideas would be very welcome. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/afa0f67d-10c6-4538-86a3-ad5f156f90a7/face-30.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My best friend is putting pressure on our marriage - Some things you might like to think about… Writing or talking about problematic circumstances can help us to effectively manage our stress. Research shows that when people wrote about their personal challenges, they enjoyed better health outcomes than those people who didn’t. Relationships need to be mutually rewarding. If one person takes too much, resentment is likely to build. Stress can easily consume large amounts of time and energy, but remember that by investing time into yourself, you will actually be better equipped to manage the stress in your life. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/617fadb58073c91463e76e08/e135a488-fb9b-4125-bb22-3ccd1ea5d0cd/poster-05.jpg Letters - Dear Dr Pene: My best friend is putting pressure on our marriage - Here’s what you could say… “Lately X (Insert your husband’s name) and I have been really struggling…we’re feeling really exhausted. When we stopped to look at why this was the case we were surprised by how much we have overcommitted ourselves - and it hit us that we’ve left no time in the week to prioritise our own self care. Basic things like exercise…we just haven’t been doing”. (Identify and share the problem). “So we’ve decided to make a few changes to see if we can feel more balanced and less exhausted again. For the next couple of months we’ve decided we need to prioritise some time for our own health. We’re going to commit to an exercise program and also schedule some one on one time for us. This means that we won’t be able to have dinner with you every night like we have been. But we were wondering if you might like to come to our place for dinner every Friday night?” (Set a limit that you feel comfortable with and stick to it). “We thought rather than having dinner together on random week nights - that it would be a nice new ritual for us all, to come together and celebrate the end of the week. What do you think? 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